Confessions of a village housewife

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OCD – just another way of Organising Cupboards and Drawers

Published June 7, 2015 by helenlaycock

People – I hesitate to call them ‘loyal friends’ – have been known to label, nay accuse, me of having OCD tendencies. I like to think of it more as being Orderly, and using Categories and Details to make life flow like liquid wax down polished granite.

*wipes up image-debris and buffs*

My Orderly nature blatantly, and tidily, presents itself as soon as you walk through the front door. Heaven forbid that I should ever be caught out as an unsuspecting contestant of ‘Through the Keyhole, Non-Celebrity Special – where we knock on random doors and demand to be let in with camera crew, Lloyd Grossman, David Frost and Keith Lemon in tow’. Every picture is straight, every mirror is polished, and, without exception, every toilet lid is down, safe in the knowledge that a fragrant and pristine paradise waits beneath. I hesitate to say that I use a spirit level and set square in positioning my ornaments… I don’t have to! I have an eye for angles and equidistance.

Exhibit #1


Everything in life can be organised by categories and details:-

BOOKS (non-fiction)

– these occupy their own ‘non-fiction’ bookcase, placed geographically away from their cousins, ‘Fiction’. Perish the thought that a member of the household confuses their natural habitats. Non-fiction sits comfortably in Categories ( I love that concept, just in case you haven’t noticed yet), and, it goes without saying that, within those categories, they are placed in height order *swoons with delight* – tall to short *passes out in ecstasy*…

Now, recipe books, living in the kitchen, are a completely different animal, with a completely different set of rules. There, the tallest books are in the middle of the shelf and there is a gentle, and symmetrical, cascade to the left and right, ending at a vintage copy of Mrs Beeton and an old Home Economics book from schooldays.

Exhibit #2 (and yes, the fact that it’s not exactly symmetrical does not sit easy with me, so I shall move swiftly on)


BOOKS (fiction)

-do I really need to state the obvious? *sighs* Alphabetical by author… just like CDs and their artists. DVDs, of course, are by title. But you knew that.

For the benefit of burglars (and subsequent visit by the boys in blue), I have made my cupboards easy to navigate, too.

Clothes are organised by type, and are sub-categorised into colour (light to dark) – as are shoes. It’s to everyone’s benefit, is it not, to also have photographic evidence of every item of clothing? What better way to select an outfit!

All the games have been categorized – word/number/physical/practical, and, as for the box containing writing materials, that is the piece de resistance (I am aware that an accent is missing. I may be OCD, but I’m also computer-illiterate).

And lists – yes, what a boon are lists. Lovely, luscious lists… Have you ever thought about how many lists are just waiting to be made? Just the other day I listed the contents of the freezer. I keep notes of presents I have bought for people over the years, I make shopping lists by aisles. Why, when we took the family to Florida, every moment was planned from where we would eat to what we would do and when we would do it. There was mutiny on Day 3, but that’s a different story.

Anyway, one day I’m going to write a book called ‘Organising Christmas? Done.’ (That’s one of my specialities)

OCD? As if… I actually think that would look better as CDO

*Note to burglars. There’s nothing of value here. Move on.

How very dare they?

Published June 1, 2015 by helenlaycock

Every so often, for a laugh, we round up the family and head off in the direction of a bit of modern art. Each time I am reminded of The Emperor’s New Clothes. Surely, surely, everyone is faking admiration, and feigning intellect, as they scuff around with narrowed eyes, tilting their head this way and that, eyeing up a dirty comb with a missing tooth here, or the dried contents of a can of paint that’s been hurled at the wall there? There was once an installation that consisted of elephant dung. Yes, really. And what are the headphones about? They need a commentary? Per-lease…

Each time, I am so incensed at being duped and taken for a mug – I AM NOT A MUG! – that I vow to never again darken the doors of the gallery. Time passes. I forget. I suggest that, for a laugh, we should round up the family and head off in the direction of a bit of modern art…

It had been a while. Bank Holiday Monday was designated as the day we would visit the Saatchi Gallery, as yet one that we had not explored. We trotted happily in the late morning sunshine with great expectations, until we arrived at said destination. The sign outside informed us that it was closed for a private function (How very dare they), so we decided that we’d take our custom elsewhere, stopping first for a coffee at one of the street cafes nearby. It was all but empty.

‘We don’t want food, just a drink,’ I said as the waitress came over. She scanned the empty caff, swivelled 360 degrees on the balls of her feet and pointed to a few tables huddled close together and tucked out of the way at the side. It was the ‘busiest’ place in the whole lot with only one empty table available. There were people there, as far as I could make out, but they were engulfed in cigarette smoke. It was Fagash Corner.

‘You can sit there if it’s just for coffee,’ she said. (How very dare she). Some people have no idea how to run a business. We declined.

Nice place, Chelsea (apart from Fagash Corner). I felt very safe and rather at home there. (When I am rich, I may well buy a second home there, and a dachshund called Millie, but that’s by the by.) Anyway, we stumbled across a lovely pub The Phoenix, very quiet and with delicious food, and had an early lunch instead, before heading to the nearest tube station; we would revisit our old favourite, The Tate Modern. Somehow, one of the party (male, middle-aged, father-figure) managed to take us in completely the opposite direction when we reached the river. There was much angst and dawdling of aching feet as, first, we backtracked our steps to the point of error, then walked in an enormous, complete circle until we found ourselves back at the Saatchi Gallery.

Finally, weary and decidedly lacking in enthusiasm, we limped on to a tube train. By the time we got to The Tate, our need for caffeine was great. The coffee shop was on the sixth storey. There were queues for the lifts, but the stairs were out of the question. Eventually, we managed to squash in and joined the queue at the very busy coffee shop from which there is a wonderful view. We purchased drinks and cake galore and headed for one of the empty tables in the larger area of the cafe where many a family had already settled themselves and their refreshments. At the threshold we were stopped. That part was ‘shut’. Shut? (How. Very. DARE. They) We were forced to join the throngs that were jostling near to the window ledge and spilling across the narrow space into the counter queue. Still more people came in. Still they served coffee and cakes. Still they thronged and jostled. We had to eat and drink standing up! Standing. Up.

With hopes that we would be cheered by the art, we headed down to the galleries. It was as I had suspected. I can name no names. I can post no photos, but art? Really?

Here are some of my favourites (feel free to tut):

a black rectangle – black, all black, like the one I did in infant school;

a bit of string in a frame – a bit curly, probably taken off a parcel;

a white sheet, ruffled on the floor;

a tray – painted white and put in a glass case so no one would touch it;

some broomsticks propped up against the wall;

a mirror – you’re the art. No effort.

I rolled my eyes, and tutted (as you probably just have), and pointed, shaking my head so that it would be publicly known that I was not, and never would be, taken in.

‘They are treating us like mugs,’ I said, as I popped my contribution into the money box. ‘We’re not coming here again.’

We still had one more joy to behold on the journey home. As the tube doors closed, a veritable songbird made his way down the carriage towards us. Sorry, did I say ‘songbird’? I meant foghorn. A passenger in a cap, shades and headphones sang at the very top of his voice for his entire journey. He knew every lyric to every song that was being pumped into his ears. Even the high bits didn’t deter him. He performed the entire repertoire to the closed carriage doors, never once turning to make eye contact with anyone, despite being filmed by at least six passengers. (How very dare he). He’s probably an Internet star by now.

Talent, eh?

Oh, nuts.

Published May 31, 2015 by helenlaycock

Oh dear, I’ve abandoned my post again, haven’t I? Gone off and been distracted by…


Truth is, other people have really good blogs where they give ‘their public’ (mwah, dahling) those pearls of wisdom they’ve been waiting for, intelligent posts about matters literary, or packed full of detail on subjects about which they have great knowledge, or a fiery passion.

*falls into a hazy brown dream…*

(Sorry, I was just thinking about my favourite topic then – Topics, yes, those chewy chocolate bars filled with nuts and raisins.)

*licks lips and wipes dribble off keyboard*

So. Back to business. All I could think about when I started this blog a long, long time ago, was to chat about my own books as I knew those fairly well, and there seemed so much to say. Is this an opportune moment to drop in a shifty little link to my Author Page ? In retrospect, there’s only so much to say, and I think I’ve probably said it all. Now that that avenue has become a cul-de-sac, a dried up stream, a crisp packet licked clean, what next?

Well, Hubby suggested a long, long time ago that as I had so much to say (cheek!), maybe I could blog about it. I think what he was really intimating was that he is no longer enchanted by the tales I weave and offer for his entertainment: I seem to have adventures and mishaps galore, random thoughts and ideas a-plenty, not to mention a good few dreams that I enjoy recounting in great detail.

So, what better place to offload! I have no idea if I have followers. Have I? I don’t think I’ve found that tab on the site, but at least I can pretend I have scores of fans who are hanging onto my every word…

Watch this space (but not for too long. I may well forget to return yet again).



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